Stage 1 • The Surprise
Choosing the Perfect Baby Name
One of the first big decisions you’ll make together. Here’s how to approach it without the overwhelm — and actually enjoy the process.
Start Here Back to Stage 1Start With What Matters to You
Before browsing lists, get clear on what you actually want. Do you want something classic or modern? A family name or something entirely new? A name with a specific meaning, or one that simply sounds right?
Knowing your priorities narrows the field fast and makes every decision easier.
How to Browse Without Getting Overwhelmed
Baby name lists are endless — and that’s the problem.
Instead of scrolling through thousands of options, write down 5 names you’ve always liked, even if you’d never use them. Look for patterns:
Do they feel strong? Soft? Traditional? Unique?
That tells you more about your taste than any list ever will.
Honor Family & Heritage
Family names can add meaning that lasts a lifetime.
This doesn’t have to mean using a name exactly as-is. You can:
Use a grandparent’s name as a middle name
Modernize a traditional name (Joseph → Josie, Anthony → Theo)
Pull inspiration from cultural roots or heritage names
Examples:
James → Jamie or Jay
Maria → Mia or Maren
Giovanni → Gio or Vanni
Things Worth Testing Before You Decide
Say it out loud — first, middle, and last name together.
Call it across a room. Imagine a teacher saying it.
Check the initials. Search it online.
These small tests catch things you won’t notice just reading it on a page.
Navigating Opinions from Family
Everyone has an opinion about baby names.
The most common advice: don’t share your shortlist until you’ve decided. Once the baby is here, people rarely push back on a name the way they do when it’s still up for debate.
Keep it close until you’re ready.
When You Can’t Agree
It’s more common than you’d think.
Try a veto system — each partner gets a set number of vetoes, no explanation needed.
Or agree on a shortlist of three and revisit after the birth. Sometimes meeting the baby makes the decision for you.
There’s no perfect name — only the right one for your family.
Whatever you choose, it will grow with them. Trust your instincts, take your time, and don’t let the pressure take the joy out of the moment.